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What a concept in the current environment in the world today! When it has become easier to make excuses, deny, avoid, abandon, or simply pretend that actions, words, and behaviors don't affect others negatively accountability and integrity go together as large pieces of what is missing from our society today. Being accountable is taking ownership of what we do, or don't do, even just to ourselves. Choosing to make bad decisions over and over again without expecting any negati

Its been an interesting year at my day job, and a part of this job involves accepting (or not) physical donations. When our office moved to a new space a year ago I/we made a decision to accept considerably fewer donations, and specifically only items that were needed at a specific time. For example: we always accept feminine hygiene, personal hygiene, clean good condition winter coats, and baby wipes; but not always incontinence products, all sizes of diapers, used sheets,

This post was started the end of December 2024, but how appropriate it still seems. Because of this I am going to post it as it seems I was only a few words away from completing, and it still feels relevant. Some days I feel like I can't do anything right. It certainly has been one of those months. But wait, there's more. December is a busy month for many people. At our house we don't exchange gifts, but we do with others in our lives, friends, co-workers, parents, children,

I had 2 interesting conversations the past few days that seemed to fit the flow this week. We make plans in our life, sometimes big plans, sometimes smaller ones. These plans may be a our business plan of sales the week, the activities your company or restaurant will be hosting next month, a vacation of a lifetime, the place we think our marriage or children will be in 5 or 10 years, or as simple as dinner with friends. For some background; I was employed by a major retai

When one is included it feeds the soul. But it is not the other side of being left out. Not including someone or others is not an intentional act, leaving (keeping) someone or many people out is. I read a post this week that opened my eyes and softened my heart around this. Short version of the story was a woman who had recently lost her husband, daughter invited her to "pop in for dessert around 4" on Christmas day. Woman spent the day starting to feel resentful, but then

Someday's we feel invisible when we are trying so hard to be seen. It's not even intentional by those around us, in fact, this uncomfortable sensation is often internal to the person having these feelings. Step back, breathe, maybe even walk away for a day, or more if thats what it takes to reset not only your own thought process, but perhaps where the relationship had found itself. This is why we practice self care (a term I personally used to abhor), take a day off, or go

Today I know we all only want to be heard. Listened to and acknowledged. This is all for Today.

This evening as I write we are on the eve of hosting another party. These are now "Anderson " parties that started out as Bolen/Anderson...

Life is good, now. 7 years after you told me I wasn't good enough. 7 years after you strung me along for at least the previous three. 7...

The holidays are wrapping up for another year and for me this has been an interesting past 8 weeks. Eight weeks? Yes, for me my holidays...

I grew up differently from everyone else I knew, my parents divorced when I was 4, and my brother and I lived with married relatives,...

I got up at 2 am this morning with the dog, and on the way back to bed I looked at the clock and realized that it was December, I then...

We have entered August and I have seen postings and heard comments frequently about "how many days until Christmas", "can't wait for fall...

It's a lovely day, if you are a duck, or perhaps simply love the gloomy days in between the promise of summer ones. But honestly, the...